Comments on: Explaining http://acommonbook.wordpress.com/2009/02/06/explaining/ "...do your own thinking, talking, and naming..." Adrienne Rich Sun, 24 May 2009 22:59:30 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: crseum http://acommonbook.wordpress.com/2009/02/06/explaining/#comment-805 crseum Tue, 10 Feb 2009 14:05:00 +0000 http://acommonbook.wordpress.com/?p=363#comment-805 Ah, my middle child soul sister. See, now my own dysfunction handles over-explaining in a completely different way. I over-explain to EVERYONE. I ESPECIALLY do it to people Im very close to (as well you know!). I've gotten somewhat better in terms of the gray area and the enemy part but as far as the people I'm close to, I do it because a) I know my behavior is odd at times and my thinking is a bit off the beaten track about some stuff, but more importantly because of b) I'm terrified of hurting people's feelings and/or unnecessary misunderstandings because of misinterpretation. The nice thing is when my people (particularly you!) understand and let me know that while it's not required, it's something i need to do for me. Sigh, what would I do without you girl? Ah, my middle child soul sister. See, now my own dysfunction handles over-explaining in a completely different way. I over-explain to EVERYONE. I ESPECIALLY do it to people Im very close to (as well you know!). I’ve gotten somewhat better in terms of the gray area and the enemy part but as far as the people I’m close to, I do it because a) I know my behavior is odd at times and my thinking is a bit off the beaten track about some stuff, but more importantly because of b) I’m terrified of hurting people’s feelings and/or unnecessary misunderstandings because of misinterpretation. The nice thing is when my people (particularly you!) understand and let me know that while it’s not required, it’s something i need to do for me. Sigh, what would I do without you girl?

]]> By: blue girl http://acommonbook.wordpress.com/2009/02/06/explaining/#comment-804 blue girl Mon, 09 Feb 2009 00:17:23 +0000 http://acommonbook.wordpress.com/?p=363#comment-804 That is a great quote, Lucy! I hate when I catch myself explaining myself. Sometimes, especially via email, I'll catch myself "over-explaining" myself and then I'm really on my own last nerve. That is a great quote, Lucy! I hate when I catch myself explaining myself. Sometimes, especially via email, I’ll catch myself “over-explaining” myself and then I’m really on my own last nerve.

]]> By: Nina http://acommonbook.wordpress.com/2009/02/06/explaining/#comment-803 Nina Sun, 08 Feb 2009 02:06:59 +0000 http://acommonbook.wordpress.com/?p=363#comment-803 "Four Minutes" IS a good song, and anyone who doesn't think so can ALSO kiss my ass. I was just at the salon today reading some random trash mag that had Nicole Kidman justifying why she had no Keith Urban on her iPod. Why would anyone actually need to justify that? “Four Minutes” IS a good song, and anyone who doesn’t think so can ALSO kiss my ass. I was just at the salon today reading some random trash mag that had Nicole Kidman justifying why she had no Keith Urban on her iPod. Why would anyone actually need to justify that?

]]> By: sannat98 http://acommonbook.wordpress.com/2009/02/06/explaining/#comment-802 sannat98 Sun, 08 Feb 2009 00:51:02 +0000 http://acommonbook.wordpress.com/?p=363#comment-802 I realized that as I grew older, I thought that I needed to explain myself, just like you, so that I can control how people perceive me. The people who I explained myself mostly to, were those who weren't close to me, and in some cases people who hated me. At to my enemies, all the explanations ever did was to cause more drama because, as the quote says, your enemies never believe you. Thanks for sharing, gave me some perspective :) I realized that as I grew older, I thought that I needed to explain myself, just like you, so that I can control how people perceive me. The people who I explained myself mostly to, were those who weren’t close to me, and in some cases people who hated me. At to my enemies, all the explanations ever did was to cause more drama because, as the quote says, your enemies never believe you.

Thanks for sharing, gave me some perspective :)

]]> By: elecpencil http://acommonbook.wordpress.com/2009/02/06/explaining/#comment-801 elecpencil Sat, 07 Feb 2009 04:59:15 +0000 http://acommonbook.wordpress.com/?p=363#comment-801 I'm a big Elbert Hubbard fan and have some of his books and Roycroft copper ware. I sometimes attend an annual summer art festival at his Roycroft campus. The campus is located in East Aurora NY (a suburb of Buffalo) a beautiful little town. Info:http://roycroftcampuscorporation.typepad.com/roycroftcampuscorporation/elbert_hubbard_quotes/ I’m a big Elbert Hubbard fan and have some of his books and Roycroft copper ware. I sometimes attend an annual summer art festival at his Roycroft campus. The campus is located in East Aurora NY (a suburb of Buffalo) a beautiful little town.

Info:http://roycroftcampuscorporation.typepad.com/roycroftcampuscorporation/elbert_hubbard_quotes/

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